Augustine often uses the food appetite as an analogy to discussing proper sexual desire. He delineates two aspects of eating:
A1: The proper purpose or end of eating: nourishment
B1: The pleasure derived from eating
Augustine claims that seeking the pleasure beyond the proper end is sinful. We want to agree with this basic point. Meileander, however, wants to challenge what Augustine lists in “A1”. He asks, isn’t there more to eating than feeding to stay alive? Doesn’t it also cultivate human community and facilitate other important desires like symbolic representation and enjoyable conversation? Why else would we eat in heaven (see City of God, 13.22)?
Here is the parallel situation for sexual activity:
A2: The proper purpose or end of sexual activity between spouses: procreation
B2: The pleasure derived from sexual activity
To make the point again, when “B2” is pursued beyond “A2” then we have sinful sexual activity. In other words, according to Augustine, every time sexual desire is felt it must be for the purpose of procreation or else the desire is sinful. Augustine actually takes it even further in his commentary on Genesis. He notes that in the Garden (before the fall) Adam and Eve would have first desired children (“A2” would come first), and then they would desire to have sexual intercourse and enjoy it as a result (“B2” would follow as a decision of the will). In other words, the pleasure would be “a kind of bonus” (Meileander, pg 131) or side-effect and not part of the motivation towards intercourse.
But if we could include the good of human community, symbolic enactment, and edifying conversation in "A1" then maybe we could similarly include more in “A2” than merely procreation. Catholic theology itself has added in a very official way the sacramental good or, as Baptists would have it, symbolic enactment, to “A2”. But maybe enrichment of a marriage relationship (what some Catholic ethicists are now calling “the unitive good of marriage”) could also be added to “A2”. If we add these other two proper ends to sexual activity between spouses, we would have the following:
A2: The proper purposes or ends of sexual activity between spouses: procreation, symbolism of Christ and the church, and enrichment of the relationship
Meileander then turns (pg 136ff) to show how these three goods in “A2” must interrelate. More on this in the next post.
[These points are largely taken from 'The Way that Leads There' by Gilbert Meileander]
[In Margaret Farley's profound work 'Just Love', she makes the startling observation that the 'unitive good' and 'procreative good' may not be too far apart - if properly experienced, they both may be collapsed into the latter. I'll be quiet now and let her speak: "...it is possible that meanings of sexuality [what we've called 'purposes' in this post] come together - in passion, tenderness, and a love so full that sexuality mediates new being." (pg 163)]